Have you ever been told by people that you are too nice? Or why do you put up with this behaviour? I have seen it happen on way too many occasions. In a relationship (either romantic or platonic) you don’t want to offend the other person so you give in to what they want. Then at some point you wake up and realize “hey what I need matters just as much” and that you are worth standing up for.
There can be potential problems with being too nice. One mainly being you place the worth of others over your worth. This can be problematic when others take advantage of that and act like they are in a position of power over you.
One lesson I learned as a child was that when someone is mean to you, you turn the other cheek. I would do this and not respond when someone was mean to me. In many cases I would still be friendly to the person who treated me badly or said something very rude or belittling to me and I guess this can be considered as me being too nice. Therefore turning the other cheek could be interpreted to mean you continue to put up with the person’s bad behaviour. For example, why do we people stay with partners that continue to treat them badly?
It took a good friend of mine to ask “Why do you still talk to/hang out with certain people if they hurt you so badly?” His question got me seriously thinking over the topic.
I am, as of today, actively taking a stand and not tolerating or being friends with people who put me down and disrespect who I am and what I stand for. I will forgive them but it doesn’t mean I have to keep them in my life and see them all the time. You can’t change how people act or what they say; you can change however how you react to that person and how you will continue to interact with them in the future.
You should take a stand because YOU ARE WORTH IT.
Plus life is too short so why surround yourself with people who always want to bring you down.
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